Love From Within

In order to feel genuine love for another, you must truly love yourself first. If you're not in touch with your ability to generate love from within, you will fall into the trap of thinking that the other person is your only source of love. Once you do this, you will start needing him or her to be around in order for you to feel good, loved, or happy. At this point, your innocent outpouring of love often becomes tainted and overshadowed by your needs and expectations of what the other person will do for you. Your attachment to the person being there for you and loving you in a particular way colors your ability to give and receive love genuinely.

When this happens, you leave the present moment and lose contact with the simple pleasure and enjoyment of being with the other person. Often, you begin to feel anxious as to whether the person really likes you or not. Part of you starts to feel dependent on them for love and deplores the thought of things not working out between you. You may become preoccupied with thoughts about the relationship's future, and forget to enjoy the love and beauty which can only flow between hearts which are willing to be present and aware of each moment.

Love can't happen when you are living in the future. Love is a present time, spontaneous experience that arises when two people allow themselves to be relaxed and open to the comfortable flow of energy between them. Love happens when you can trust your experience of being with another, without any hopes or expectations of what the relationship means, where it's going, or what it will do for you.

In living in the moment, you can fully enjoy the other person. And, at some point, if one of you chooses to move on, you will both have made the most of the time you spent together. You can never lose when you choose to open yourself up to the current of love that can naturally flow between two people. And since that love comes from within you, that experience will always be available to you, no matter who comes into or goes out of your life.